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Public Service Internet monthly newsletter (Sept 2026)

What happens when the entire economy is a scam, with a large mobile phone stairing down at its user — Via: https://yourbrainonmoney.substack.com/

We live in incredible times with such possibilities that is clear. Although its easily dismissed reading Zuckerburg’s deranged superintelligent AI future post, hearing about pagers leveraged for data breach and what could ever go wrong?

To quote Buckminster Fuller “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.“

You are seeing aspects of this with the EU finally embracing open source as part of sovereignty, Chicago public media launching a city wide social network with New public and will Meta’s settlement finally make the difference we need for traditional social media?

The reality of not believing what you see is here

Ian thinks: This interview with GetReal is honestly incredibly difficult and NSFW listen to. It certainly digs in to how the AI tools from the likes of Grok and Meta is have not only caused the deep-fake dilemma people have predicted for years. But also a crisis for those trying to report and stop them.

Disinformation and fear fuelled deaths

Ian thinks: On a similar point, Channel 4’s breakdown of what happened in the Ceuta migrant crisis, is a good solid watch. Watching it made super clear how disinformation is a real killer and how clearly thoughts about its weaponisation has long become a reality. Sadly its only going to get far worst.

The Surveillance as standard

Ian thinks: The EFF, are great for tools which help so many people understand the nuances of the digital surveillance state we find our selves in now. I would love to see tools like this become something which is shared with others organisations across the world.

Rethinking social software with Blane Cook

Ian thinks: I have a lot of time for Blane, I have come across he quite a lot and his thoughtful mind is perfect for this conversation. A little bit of what Twitter could have been but not the nostalgia nonsense I occasionally still here, but forks in the road where decisions could have made something much closer to what social looks like now.

One good thing going right

Ian thinks: This short TED talk is a reminder there is hope and there is a way forward, even when things are clearly not great.

Which end of the centaur are you?

Ian thinks: This interview on Jon Steward’s weekly show with Cory Doctorow is full of amazing insight about our lives with AI. I only started reading Doctorow’s Reverse Centaur’s Guide to Life After AI, but I won’t lie I budged it to the top my reading list after watching this. Even if you are fed up of hearing about AI, this is a must read.

Public media and social networks?

Ian thinks: The digital public space or the public service internet. Both have been tried but like always, its about the timing. Maybe New_Public have it right this time? As there are a lot of events in the states which could really need stronger local news and communities. One to keep an eye on.

IKEA marketspace a good move or centralisation?

Ian thinks: I respect the points about trusted place especially when looking at the awful nightmare of Facebook marketplace. IKEA seem to be doing a solid for buyers and sellers. However I wonder about the centralisation of this all. There is a number of power plays they could put into action but time will tell, how successful it will be and how much control they will unleash? Dare I say enshittification…?

Is someone you know part of the grift economy?

Ian thinks: Following the Louis Threoux documentary about the Manosphere, the notion of grifting became a lot more common to most the internet users. Grifting isn’t anything new but the ecosystem which has grown around it is something super charged by the physiological super weapons of Gen AI. As usual the companies and people selling the tools are also benefitting off griffters. Just like people selling shoves during the gold rush.

Hetrosexual dating is broken beyond repair?

Ian thinks: As someone writing a book and building a new type of system to make connections more meaningful; I have found a lot of discussion about how straight dating is broken beyond repair, including one from the same Vox channel. This interview summaries a lot of the thoughts I have about this space. Yes its slightly broken (always was) but its turned up to 11 and echoed by the internet/social algorithms. Its not good and its a clear example of the real human effects, adding to the loneliness epidemic; even in part.

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Public Service Internet monthly newsletter (Aug 2026)

Ecosystem of tree roots in a forest — Image by Manfred Antranias Zimmer from Pixabay

We live in incredible times with such possibilities that is clear. Although its easily dismissed hearing how Meta’s Instagram approving illegal adverts, Claude AI chats appearing in public searches along many others and how did we all let one company break the internet?

To quote Buckminster Fuller “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.“

You are seeing aspects of this with Google losing its appeal in the EU anti-trust android case. LG’s 32inch power friendly eink display and with the UK culture secretary leaving X.

Play has limits: The year of the Linux game machines

Ian thinks: Sony is well known for their stance on licencing not owning, recently making their platform even more painful to own. Micrcosft looks to follow suite too. Doubled with the huge costs of memory and console prices rising as discussed on tech won’t save us…Which begs the question, is the next year the year of the Linux game machine?

Libraries to the rescue

Ian thinks: When talking about public service, the importance of librarians is never forgotten. In this discussion with Paris Marx, a number of topics are covered including the notion of library values, algorithmic literacy and libraries as the grass-root resistance to AI.

Rushkoff’s history lesson for us all

Ian thinks: Rushkoff has a lot to say usually and although I don’t always agree. This reminder of history monologue, is so very fitting for where we are now and where we are heading if the status-quo isn’t challenged and changed. A stark warning from history.

Sovereignty: build ecosystems not monocultures

Ian thinks: As a advisory member of the Open Rights Group, I found this essay via a recent live cast about sovereignty. The essay connects and credits a lot of the key points mentioned over this newsletter including rewilding, climate collapse, and open ecosystems. Its needs more attention and I say it deserves it.

Setting light to your community

Ian thinks: I have always been a fan of bonfire, and seeing the direction they have taken the fediverse has been enlightening. This new announcement really cermets their aim to centre the community and their leaders. This is a shining example of the open social future with backbone. Why would deploy anything else?

Modular is the new under-rated metric?

Ian thinks: I usually ignore reviews of consumer technology but watching Marques Brownlee review the Framework 13 pro was enlightening. The key point of why I have included it is because Marques comes to the realisation the longevity of modularity is a feature which is unmeasurable and ignored in reviews

How dating data became a national security problem

Ian thinks: Data and data brokers is a huge problem which is causing too many headaches. In this vid/podcast from 404media, the data which is collected by apps is highlighted and in one case became a national security problem, and I could completely understand why. But you should listen to hear the whole story. Expect chills afterwards.

What are the facts and learnings in the OpenAI LLM cyberattack?

Ian thinks: There has been a lot of talk and disinformation about the Open AI LLM cyber attack on Hugging face. Well Simon Willison’s walk through does underline the lack of security from Open AI, the lack of cooperation and trust in the commercial AI space.

Explaining the AI bubble credit swaps

Ian thinks: This is likely the best and clearest explainer of what is happening with the AI bubble, in regards to the amount of debt which is growing for a number of the AI companies. Ed Zitron has a lot to add to this.

Wearables, making your doctor concerned

Ian thinks: I found this discussion via the quantified self newsletter, In the short video there is a number of questions about how useful user controlled/wearable data is for the medical industry. Its a long running challenge between data and insight.

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New podcast: Making the familiar strange

Cartoon style black man and white woman are chatting and drinking coffee at a small table

Its been a long time in coming but as most people know I’m fascinated about relationships, loneliness and intimacy space. They are at the heart of much of the things I have been working on. From the impact of loneliness to my own experiences with dating in a book I’m writing. Lets also not forget the manifesto I started.

Some might even remember a short run podcast called Lovegrumps, which was a spin off from the monthly Techgrumps podcast.

With all that in mind, myself and Dr Jessica Symons have launched today.

Making the familiar strange (RSS here)

A podcast exploring modern relationships, intimacy, loneliness and love.

In an era of hyper connectivity, why does it feel like we’ve never been further apart?

In an intimate exploration of the invisible threads that pull us together and the forces that drive us into isolation.

Each month we dive deep into the messy, wonderful, and often complex landscape of raw human connection.

Unlike Techgrumps, me and Jessica will have different guests on our monthly podcast. Each one will focus on that guest and their related topic.

Expect the podcast to pop up in all the places you find podcasts…

Public Service Internet monthly newsletter (Jan 2026)

This scientist predicted AI-induced delusions…

We live in incredible times with such possibilities that is clear. Although its easily dismissed reading Arduino’s new terms of service, reading the awful story of the man behind evil twin wifis on airplanes and please stop using AI browsers.

To quote Buckminster Fuller “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”

You are seeing aspects of this with Apple working with the EU’s DMA, E-petition digital ID debate now on youtube and UK flat owners could have a legal right to fibre.

France turns hostile to privacy and encryption?

Ian thinks: Worrying that the stance on open Android apps outside the play-store is undecided, but even worst to see the crack down on encryption comes to the likes of privacy centred Graphene OS.

Remember the pipe dream of the metaverse?

Ian thinks: Travel back a few years when Facebook become Meta, Horizon worlds was on the tip of lots of tongues. But for the wrong reasons as this video makes super clear. Even I was shocked to see an average of 900 people using it along side #4.4 billion in loss income while Zuck’s glaze is elsewhere.

Remember Facebook dating?

Ian thinks: Talking about Meta, surprisingly Facebook dating its doing very well, although not promoted or talked about at all. There’s a plan to do more in 2026, I expect the changes at Hinge will have an influence to reflect Zuckerberg’s plans for more AI bots?

Dating coaching with Chat GPT?

Ian thinks: We all know people who are using AI for different aspects of life but as a dating coach is on the up-tick The notable part is this has been published in the female fashion magazine Elle, and indicates a worrying trend of AI mingling with human intimacy.

The enshittification of Airbnb and so much more…

Ian thinks: As a Airbnb host myself, I can agree about the enshittification of the platform Airbnb. I personally have had to fight against the decay of the platform from AI pricing, scramble for superhost status and so much more.

The everyday problems of privacy

Ian thinks: This video explains just a few of the problems with being private on the internet today. I recently did similar and found it painful, emailing back and forth to confirm everything, in the end I just gave up.

Talking LLM bias in detail

Ian thinks: AI bias was heavily talked about for years, then things went quiet. I found this detailed conversation with Harvard psychologist Mahzarin Banaji, perfectly timed in the face of the rise of LLMs. I found the API vs chat interface differences really powerful.

AI psychosis? What could be done?

Ian thinks: You likely have heard of it but its when AI echos and encourages paranoia and delusions. There are many real examples, but this well watched video although curated for performance shows how things can accelerate downwards ever so quickly. The big question is what can be done?

The authoritarian pipeline made visible

Ian thinks: Francesca Bria and others clearly highlight the huge problems with the current tech setup in the states. In this interactive mapping, its insane how interwoven everything is, but hardly surprising. What this means for Europe is a big question and the key point.

The next 10 years of public service in the UK?

Ian thinks: Every 11 years the UK government puts out a green paper for the future of the BBC public charter. As a public consultation, there is a call for feedback and thoughts on the future of public service and the BBC. Highly recommend spending the time on this, and its open to all

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An update on where I have been recently (post R&D)

Ian and Alison in a hotel bar — My loving supportive partner Alison while Japanese whiskey tasting

Its been around 4 months since I officially left BBC R&D. Its been a while since I did a catch up of where I am and a lot has happened.

First of all I have setup a limited company, one of the main reasons is to seriously pursue how to build the public space as an viable alternative to commercial and government space.

A large part of this is working with others on the notion of a digital public space. One of the leaders in this space is New_Public and I’m really excited to announce, I am going to be working with them to achieve their open source plans. As most of you know, open source isn’t just about the code but about the community and everything which surrounds it. Hence my time running BBC Backstage, is certainly useful.

On the digital legacy front following on from the Republica panel discussion with Identity 2.0 and Linn. I have been thinking about the letter of wishes and how it could actually work in line with HDI (human data interaction) and public values? Its actually something I felt a public service company like the BBC could transform, as it screams public value but it wasn’t to be.

To this I entered my thoughts into a call for participation with the Mydata conference and happy to say they really liked it as a workshop. Which means in September, I will host a workshop around the notion of a machine readable letter of wishes. I am hopefully going to be joined by a fellow digital legacy collaborator but prepared to run it alone.
Been seriously thinking about how to make this real and a standard format seems the best way to go. What software/services which can read and execute this fungible document, is something for others; but a prototype is perfectly possible. Even if it scratches my own itch, it could also help me play/learn with some of the new declarative (React, Vue.js, Xproc) or even object-originated programming languages/frameworks (Rust).

In a similar space, of me rethinking what a public service company could do to be more relevant in the age of endless scroll, enshittification and a loneliness epidemic; as touched on in the future of social report recently.

I have had an enduring eye on matching and dating with true public value. There is so much I have written about it over time and even have a very long bookmark feed of interesting points.

With all this, I have been writing my own book about this all and pretty much finished. Can I also say how amazing Librewrite has gotten for editing complex books like this…

In the last few months I submitted my book to Conduit Books and signed up to a course by Kenyon author services. Mainly to rethink how I proactively encourage people to buy the book or at least read it. Considered going through the publishers and agent book again but I just don’t have the time, plus I have a plan of action which includes a online dating manifesto, potential podcast and maybe a potential dating service which clings to public values and the HDI principles mentioned before. Some of this might come sooner than expected, as I actually mentioned the dating manifesto (borrowed heavily from Julia) and even showed the cover & title (tbc) to my book at the PublicSpaces conference, during the lunch break.

The manifesto which will be collaborative, will feature at the end of the book and is something Mydata is interested in because its very related to HDI and use of data. I did put it in as a session but it may work better as a short workshop. Watch this space…

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I have had a long relationship with Mozilla via the festival (Mozfest), which this year goes global in Barcelona in November. Unfortunately the call for participation has closed and the wrangling part has started. The spacewrangler role is very important, as we are the face and hearts of the festival. One thing which concerned the spacewranglers was the price of the tickets compared to 2019 ticket prices in London. Yes that was a while ago ,a lot has happened including a pandemic and global inflation. However the wranglers have pushed back on the Mozilla foundation. Mozilla have listened and replied with a number of changes including community badges which are a similar price to the ones in London in 2019!

Lets be honest this is a deal, especially with all the challenges Mozilla is facing right now. I would grab your community ticket for €45 now and join us as we write the internet’s next chapter.

Running a limited business comes with a bunch of administrative challenges including accounting. Originally I thought I could use something open and self host it but, the realisation that no accountant will use it and even if I transfer it to something like Xero, Freeagent or Quickbooks. They would need to run through the whole thing again. So I am using Quickbooks for now and seeking a good accountant which isn’t too expensive, can deal with international clients (I have spent far too much time trying to understand and fill in the W-8BEN-E form) and manage my lack of interest in taxes. The notion of a portfolio career keeps coming up, but its really not me… However I do generally have quite a few projects going on at once. This post is testament to this.

In the meanwhile, I have been travelling a lot, my carbon footprint isn’t great but I did recently go to southern France. Somewhere re-reading my school report I wanted to live. Crazy eh?

In the background, I have made a lot of changes to my self hosting setup. I still need to fix quite a few things including my Yunohost Pi server which was broken due to the Debian bookworm update. I decided my mixgarden should just be a Peertube instance which makes a lot of sense. I certainly need to sort out my docker setup because that would make things so much easier. In the meanwhile I have finally settled on Anytype for my personal knowledge store and Vikunja for tasks and kambam. My Framework laptop is going well, especially with a 64gig of memory now, however Ubuntu is doing strange things with the keyboard while using Wayland.
Considering blogging more and setting up separate spaces for the publicservice internet notes, business stuff (which I really need to sort out) and a few other things.

Another strange thing, I just started is baking my own Sourdough bread. Its early days but will attempt my first loaf tomorrow. Yes I know its years after everyone was doing it during the pandemic but hopefully I’ll get into it.

There is so much more but not for public blogging right now. I’m still seeing friends when ever possible, mainly in the UK but when I’m out of the country, catching up with international friends.

I’m very fortunate to have a loving, caring and understanding partner, who is helping me through all this insane amount of change.

Public Service Internet monthly newsletter (July 2024)

Picture taken from Mozhouse Amsterdam 2024 Woman sat talking to a crowd with a screen saying We are life: AI accountability during war

We live in incredible times with such possibilities that is clear. Although its easily dismissed while seeing the ransomware attack on NHS hospitals, Meta’s EULA change to include feeding AI with your data and the terrible state of online shopping thanks to dropshipping and Temu.

To quote Buckminster Fuller “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.“

You are seeing aspects of this with publishers rethinking their online strategy, security services starting their own mini series and the introduction of the proton foundation.

The bigger impact of the law enforcement ANOM surveillance

Ian thinks: You might remember the ANOM take over? At the time I thought it was pretty clever but in this episode centred around Joseph Cox’s book Dark wire. I missed the bigger impact of surveillance and the chilling effect it had on encrypted messaging services/platforms.

Predicting the police and other artist AI visions

Ian thinks: I enjoyed this look at AI through the eyes of the different people in this episode. Critical in some parts and imaginative in others, its a good listen and gave me a base for many other thoughts.

How AI could threaten democracy, under our noses

Ian thinks: It was interesting to see Lawrence Lessig sound the alarm but also provide clear ideas of things which must change now. The talk is also from Germany which is deliberate as the advice is directly aimed at Europe, knowing it could trickle down into other countries like America.

Tech accountability during the time of war

Ian thinks: I didn’t get a chance to see this panel discussion live but I watched it streamed live while in Amsterdam for the Mozilla House festival. The experiences and descriptions really got me. Nearer the end I was energised while questioning where the accountability sits?

Mitigating GenAI hallucinations?

Ian thinks: Colleague Henry wrote a interesting analysis and guide to help with limiting the hallucinations found in the gen AI space. He’s not the only one looking, as this open access paper delves into this all too.

Is Microsoft tracking school kids a step too far?

Ian thinks: With strong laws like GDPR, it doesn’t take much to see companies like Microsoft potentially caught red handed. The question I do have is if they are potentially doing it for school kids, imagine whats happening to their customers?

Insight into the EU’s digital identity system

Ian thinks: I didn’t get the chance to be at this session at Re:publica but watching it back I am learned a quite bit and even more from the Q&A afterwards. Then looked to see how similar it is to Self Sovereign Identity?

Europe’s Path to Innovation in Public Interest

Ian thinks: Francesca Bria is great to watch again and incredible in person at the PublicSpaces conference. Centred around the idea of a 100 billion European digital sovereignty fund to ignite the innovation we all want to see. Its the kind of grand plan we all need and shes deadly serious.

AI is warping our love lives

Ian thinks: There has always been a industry interest in AI and love. The experts have varies of opinions and this insightful interview gives a good overview of the concerns and benefits of something which most won’t admit to or talk about.

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Public Service Internet monthly newsletter (June 2024)

4 people standing (3 female and 1 male) look into their phones

We live in incredible times with such possibilities that is clear. Although its easily dismissed while seeing the latest shiny AI device as simply a Android launcher, FUD pointing at Signal & Proton and AI bots dating other each other?

To quote Buckminster Fuller “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.“

You are seeing aspects of this with Meta sued under section 230, Microsoft providing passkey support for all its users and finally some agreement around Bluetooth tracking.

Is the C-suite at fault for the current tech problems?

Ian thinks: This new series by Zittron looking at how the tech industry is being run by people who have far less interest in the technology. Some call it the maturing of the sector but its clear from the Zittron this isn’t necessarily a good thing

We need a public service internet. no really!

Ian thinks This is not going to come as a surprise to many readers but iit really unites a number of the different initiatives. Futher adding fuel to the slowly burning fire.

GoFundMe is worst that you can imagine

Ian thinks: Most people have seen a range of crowdfunding profiles/sites/apps for tragic healthcare cases, Even I pointed at the lack of public healthcare systems but the podcast goes so much deeper, pointing out who gets funding, how and ultimately how Crowdfunding sites profit from the misery.

Not heard about Deadbots?

Ian thinks: Digital recreations of dead people or deadbots, is on the rise and this Guardian piece highlights the rise and problems with them. The idea of them haunting others could be a real big problem in the future.

Is Passkeys a dream too far?

Ian thinks: Reading this flags a lot of alerts, Microsoft, Google and many more have thrown weight behind it. I still use them but alongside other multifactor authentication.

Time to own your own home page?

Ian thinks: Reading about the return of the home page is a interesting read but I can’t help but remember Steven Pemberton’s presentation from a long time ago.

Use the artificial creativity

Ian thinks: I found Ruskoff’s monologue about Gen AI is quite balanced and reminds us all of the problem with the wider ecosystem. Gen AI will create generic stuff but won’t create the next generation of anything without human creativity.

A public bid to acquire TikTok?

Ian thinks: The Tiktok bans are popping up everywhere and I found this news quite unique. With a billionaire buying Tiktok for the public good? There is a lot more detail on project liberty..

Does Data Colonialism exist?

Ian thinks: One of the most thought-provoking talks in Re:Publica this year, I felt. When layed out in a new book data grab, the professors make a compelling case for how the only word to describe now is data colonialism.

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My new years resolutions for 2024

Following my review of last year… here’s my New Years Resolutions for 2024 which follows on from 2023, 2022, 2021, 2020, 2019, 2018, 2017, 2016, 2015, 2014, 2013, 2012, 2011, 2010, 2009, 2008 ones.

Digital nomad things
This is the make or break year I think. I need to move things forward as time is going by quickly and i’m not getting younger. My next step is a meeting with the Portuguese embassy to clarify the tax side of things. An official note could make all the difference.
Finish my dating book
Its been way too long and its so close now, as mentioned in the review of last year.I have all the illustrations now except the front cover (but have plans). I also formatted the latest version into the 8×5 inch book format using templates, added the illustrations and shared it with a selected few. I await there comments over the festive season, then another check and final look at by Hannah.So I’m expecting some changes but its well on its way now. This year I’m looking into self publishing alternatives to Amazon KDP. But I don’t see any problem with a printed and ebook version by the end of the 2024.
Head even further a field with the scooter
I still need to get the scooter out to mainland Europe, ideally 2024 is a good time before things change with visas, etc.
Learn to drive a car
There are times when a car would be helpful and now with the drive towards electric cars and automatic drive. Its just a matter of doing the theory test again and then booking lessons.
Listen to two Audiobooks every month
I have been listening to one a month, but its time to push for two a month. Its quite a push but I think its worthy of the push I think.
Go to a new country
Its been long and there is a lot of Europe I haven’t visited, plus I have friends in those places I could easily visit. Although there is a temptation to visit some of the places again with my partner, new places do bring a new experiences.
Go to a new Rollercoaster park
A regular resolution but a good one and if I head to another country, its certainly high on the list.
Take the Diabolo skills up another level
I’m doing some exciting things with the diabolo but I really need to see some of the tricks done in person. YouTube is good but to really get a grip of the advanced tricks I need to meet other people doing the diabo lo.
Next year its time to meet more of them and learn those tricks like the infinite suicide!
Move over to privacy preserving protocols and platform
I am more and more annoyed at the business models of the majority of services out there. Cory frames it perfectly as enshittification and it’s frankly not on. Although this raises a bunch of questions about data portability (something I was deeply involved in, a long time ago regardless of what Wikipedia says) I need to just move! The alternatives are not only good enough in some places (tasks) but far better (like the fediverse). I will keep the old services but by the end of the year move over.
I’m also going to lean more on my blog more to bring things back into one place, for example why isn’t my bookwrym account not attached to my blog? Its also a good way to do collections, rather than this type of thing.
Separate out my food waste
In most of the UK, food waste is separated from the rest. Just like how we recycle paper/card and some plastics. However as I live in a set of flats, Manchester Council tried to make us separate our food waste too. This was great because my main bin stopped smelling and I had to empty it a lot less. However the community bin for food recycling in the flat basement was full of different things because people kept emptying in plastic and other things into it. In the end Manchester council stopped food waste collection and we stopped food recycling (sadly).
So my thought is to keep on doing it but empty the food waste inside decomposable plastic bags into the main community bins. Its not ideal but I think separating the waste is generally a good thing. Its a good habit and who knows maybe I’ll find a food waste bin to empty them into later.
Start to mark out significant moments in my history
One of the things I have done when mentoring as an exercise, is pull out key part of my/their life to help pick out key things which helped and hindered.
It a great little way to help understand your life and paths going forward. But I always found different ways to illustrate them using categories/layers to hide personal, work, etc.
Then recently I discovered Your life in weeks, which got looking around and finding a bunch of apps/webapps using the concept. This got me thinking about codifying key moments in life in a more neutral format. Ideally this would be XML but alas markdown will work better than CSV?
See more of my friends
My friends are diverse, interesting and are great to be around. During the Covid pandemic, I would call them up on the off chance and have some incredible conversations. It was amazing and some went on for 4 hours.
I’m going to next year catch up with more of my friends I haven’t seen in years. Be it on the phone, online, in person, what ever works.

How did love get monopolised?

To me its nothing new, the history of Match Group and their almost total ownership of online dating.

It did make a good point about Plenty of Fish, who said no way and lets not forget OKCupid who wrote why you should never pay for online dating before they were bought.

Still remember the popcorn eating with the vanity fair piece too…

Stop Screwing with okcupid

The whole area of online dating is a surveillance capitalism mess and I really wish someone in the EU commission would apply competition rules and regulations to this space.

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Public Service Internet monthly newsletter (Dec 2023)

People investigating a document in detail

We live in incredible times with such possibilities that is clear. Although its easily dismissed with the soap opera of Open AI, ai bias feeding ai bias and being anonymous getting more difficult.

To quote Buckminster Fuller “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”

You are seeing aspects of this with the Apple not advertising with X, Pebble/T2 restarts as a mastodon instance,

Coalition for Content Provenance and Authenticity is not a blockchain

Ian thinks: Tim Bray is a well known figure in the older tech circles. His review/blog looking at C2PA is revealing, honest and just what I’ll be sending people interested in content provenance and trust.

Privacy costs? But should it?

Ian thinks: Signal revealed how much it costs to run Signal and its quite an open opener. Relying on donations and grants I am amazed and recently donated, but I do question if privacy should cost, as its so fundamental to being human.

Climate change requires a new financing model.

Ian thinks: Mariana lays out a clear argument why solving the climate crisis is even further off than it should be.due to the way business and markets work. Strong warning but who is listening?

Flipboard’s fediverse podcast is a must listen

Ian thinks: Ok I’m bias, as a upcoming guest on the dotsocial podcast series but if you are confused or even a expert about the emerging space of the fediverse and activitypub. This is the podcast series for you.

How ActivityPub, WordPress and Decentralised social networks work together

Ian thinks: WordPress is huge on the internet and when Automattic announced ActivityPub support, it was exciting. In this podcast Matthias, explains how it all happened in a informative straight forward way for anyone to follow. I would recommend it to anyone interested in what the Fediverse means for the public service internet.

Self service tills in the middle of a battle?

Ian thinks: There has been so much news, discussion and debate about self service tills. Its part of a much bigger question about how much automation society will accept vs how much businesses balance between profit and loss. Not just in profits but also publicity, trust and so much more.

Mozilla Explains: Is Your Dating App Racist?

Ian thinks: There is a lot in this short video but the research is solid in the face of a industry which avoids sharing critical data with researchers.

Dating is so full of data and Elon wants a piece?

Ian thinks: This was not widely reported on but the online dating market is huge, full of personal & sensitive data and growing all the time. Facebook tried but while people may brush it off. Is it bluster? Who knows but its important to think about the bigger picture as online dating is the dominate way people meet across the world.

The era of easy money is gone?

Ian thinks: I first came across this book from the talk at the Thinking Digital conference. Its a good read/listen with lots more detail than expected and strong advice for the future of this space. I can’t help but feel if it was released now, I’d love to hear the final take on Sam Bankman-Fried, who was recently sent to prison.

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