Tony sent me a link to 10 Reasons Why This Generation Is Losing The Ability To Be In Love. I quoted a few bits from it in my thoughts about narcissism and selfies. But theres much more to be quoted…
My greatest worry is our generation will be looked at as the generation that gave up on love. We date for the sake of dating. The generation that forgot how to love — which is ridiculous. Most people have never had a good understanding of love, just a poor interpretation of it.
I’m not sure why Tony sent this to me but I have thoughts why… you see why as I go through some of the points I think are levelled at me?
We sleep around — a lot.
Although I have dated quite a bit, I don’t sleep around a lot. This is a common misconception when I talk about dating. If I mention serial dater, the first thing which comes to mind is sex. I won’t even go there about what is sex…
We’re becoming even more egocentric.
Not so… Although I agree culture is leaning that way, sadly. But its nothing to shrug about, the future is not written.
We date for the sake of dating.
Many people have asked me over and over again, if I date for the sake of dating? Everytime I say something about enjoying dating, mainly because I might be sapiosexual (more about this in the future as I do agree its a little silly but this a bit strong, thanks Tom).
But I do also say, I date because I would like to meet somebody special. Heck in the context of this post, I would like to fall in love again. Feels weird saying that but its true but I’m not scared of doing so. I will look forward to it.
We aren’t fans of making compromises.
I do agree, I don’t like to compromise much but I do understand I do need to compromise. For the person who sweeps me off my seat, I’ll compromise and some.
We believe in fairytale endings.
Nope, I don’t buy it at all. I would say I have come to the realisation that love take a very different path for everybody. This includes non-monogamy too. Wheres the fairytale endings for that? Exactly, don’t believe the hype… silly rabbit!
We’ve been fooled into believing perfection is attainable.
Rubbish, perfection is an illusion. Just like the fairytale endings, being open to more creditable influences and meeting more people, its clear as day whats actually attainable and what is sustainable.
We’re goal driven, but often forget to include our partners in the mix.
I don’t know about this one, I feel this generation is much more collaborative than previous ones. The slow but sure balancing of the sexes also insures both or more partners goals and aspirations are more important than ever before.
Most of us are really bad at loving.
As Haddaway said, What is love? Although I joke, its a serious question. Love is different for everybody. We have evolved and so has the sense of what love is… I don’t disagree that the paradox of choice and other factors have made finding love much more complex but millions fall in love everyday. Be it physically or virtually. With one person or multiple people.
On top of that, there are so many different ways to tell our loved one(s) that we love them. From a text message with emoji at the right moment to turning on a light in the connected objects domain.
I think the writer is unfair in the statement that we are really bad at loving.
For me, its not a resistance to fall in love but to get it somewhat right. I listen to my gut reaction a lot more than I use to. Does this mean I don’t have the ability to fall in love? No, it means I will only fall in love when the conditions are right and not for some artificially manufactured reason.
5 thoughts on “Am I losing the ability to be in love? Nope”
Wasn’t sure why @tonychurnside thinks I might be losing The ability to be in love? http://t.co/x66gNU2bF7
Have you seen that dating app / watch from myserendip(dot)com? I read about it in the tech section of a magazine aimed at men.
No had not but this is the type of crap which sells 🙁 Oh dear!
@TonyChurnside Also did you see my post about that link you sent? http://t.co/d1fnuBMEgX
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